Marriage isn’t for Everyone, We all don’t get married at the same time.

Life to some is like a switch-

Almost comparable to a time bomb-

with a list of systematic events to follow-

plans drafted out in line..

from birth, education, job, marriage, children and more…

in that order for most, an assumption that makes me

roll my big eyes..

Marriage isn’t for everyone…

Some people just don’t believe in marriage,

the perception and sacrifices that come with it.

Also coupled with the changing views about marriage

in these times; the contribution of the media,

expensiveness of marriage and the high divorce rates..

You can’t blame a brother or sister for his choices…

Not everyone is meant to get married…

Not everyone wants to get married…

We all don’t get married at the same time.

From childhood, most people tend to plan out their lives

drawing up a life line equitable to an itinerary…

With a specific age matching up to an achievement…

an assumption that society also freely brushes in-

with a rare rhythmical clause that a man or woman should

be married by a certain age…

Delirious to certain aspects of life.

Unaware of the truth that is a part of being human

and that change is a fact of life…

Sometimes the shortest split second in time

changes the direction of our lives

A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world

like a meteorite striking Earth.  Entire lives have

been swiveled and flipped upside down,

for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable

event.  And these events are always happening

such, is the irony of life…

Also forgetting that we are all born alone,

under different circumstances…

with a different mind, plans and ambitions

sprung from different backgrounds…

A perception about life, marriage and more.

A truth that most often defines our choices

as we grow up..

Change is a fact of life.

Most people make plans, but sometimes they just don’t happen

systematically in that order, usually skewed…

Others get married as early as 21, others as late as 53.

There is no time frame for marriage…

We are all not programmed to get married at the same time,

or start having children at a particular period…

Just because it has happened systematically for a group of people,

doesn’t mean that it will be the same for you.

Don’t make haste on a rainy day, sow your seeds in time…

If you don’t want to get married, don’t…

Society shouldn’t define you nor should the expectations

from other people, bandwagon and what not…

If you’re not ready to get married, be open about it…

Don’t be rushed when you know that you should wait…

Just because everyone is getting married, doesn’t mean

that you should too…


Get married for the right reasons,

When you are ready and more…

Marriage isn’t for everyone,

We all don’t get married at the same time.


Author: AfroetryC

I am an African woman and a mother to a precious little angel. I love to use the term "Afro-floetic Queen" mostly to describe my poetry and my roots. I love, soul music and inspirational bits of knowledge to offer advice and counseling to those who need it. I can be very witty, straight forward but fun. Ha. ha... A colorful perception of the world - expressed in my poetry. I want to inspire people with my Poetry...give them hope, while also advising them. Life is a learning process and i am happy when one of my pieces directly affects or inspires one of my readers. Let's take a detour around experience, and let me fill your minds with sweet poetic juices.... Note: Just changed my user name from FloetryC to AfroetryC because the latter is more personal and describes my Spoken Word Poetry better.

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