“Dad is an atlas, so we keep discovering new places where he does
not exist…like in the bodies of all the men we have ever tried to love”.
She never knew her father.
Her first heart break was from the first man in her life,
She’s a product of the second generation of females with
daddy issues, a slave to psychological and emotional despair
constantly bowing to random men filling her with false
promises and breaking her heart.
She drowns in an emotional whirlpool.
Falls in love easily and takes up any man who compliments
her and emulates the father figure she craves.
Enabling mistreatment and toxic relationships because she
is afraid of being alone.
Constantly crumbling in between layers of needing to be
needed, craving attention and constant reassurance of a
She searches for the missing face of her father in all the
Looking for herself in the arms of different men
Letting them hang their sexual fantasies on her.
Calling a man “daddy” when she feels his penis wiggling
inside her pot of clay like vicious insects.
Falling to her knees amidst moments of fleeting satisfaction,
pulsating emotions marinated as fake love as he breathes
She was never taught the characteristics of a good man or
the definition of a real man.
She developed a perceptive definition of love between
Finding a man that fitted the description of a father figure
became her sole purpose as she let any man who made her
feel good take up that spot in her life and crash her spirit.
Afraid that love would stray, she became desperate and
clingy. Drowning in the same cycle of despair.
Blaming herself for all her choices, decisions and mistakes.
Using her father as a scapegoat instead of rebuilding her life
and learning to love herself.
Understanding that it wasn’t her fault and the resentment
she feels for her father shouldn’t define her life and her
Rising up beyond her pain and disappointment.
Using her past as a yardstick to rebuild herself as a woman
with respect and integrity; not a desperate woman still holding
onto to daddy’s mistakes and looking for a man to fill that void.
Daddy issues redefined, rebuilt.